I had a mailed response from someone i know who lives in Japan following my Hello Kitty post. We got to discussing the whole ‘Japanese school girl as sexy’ thing.

My friend said: Oh the lolita shit. fcuk you  have no idea how much I hate it and how much it weirds me out. creeps me out enough to make my skin crawl

And: when a 40 year old tries to dress like a 15 year old school girl, there is so much wrong with that psyche. with the woman who thinks its acceptable. and the society that forces her to behave in such a way


She lives there so i guess she knows to some extent what she is talking about. At least she has actually seen these women in real life.


I decided to go do some research before i commented. When goggling ‘Japanese school girl’ the first site on the list has naked and near naked pictures of very young looking oriental girls in school uniforms posing in revealing and provocative positions. As do most of the first ten pages on google.

So i googled ‘South African school girls’ and the first site was about Oprah’s school for girls here. No sex on the whole first page.

‘American school girl’ spat out rapidlibrary but admittedly the next site was one offering sexy school girl costumes.

‘British school girl’ first had strippers and then a kid with swine flu!


So it seems that Japanese school girls are certainly not the only ones sexualised but they do seem to be much more of a sexual icon than other school girls. And only Japanese grownups seem to pursue the school girl look in all seriousness. And it is only Japanese school knickers (used) available for sale to rich wankers online and in vending machines!

So why is Japan the site of this horrible Lolita fascination with school girls? Why do Japanese girls and women buy into it? There is even a phrase for it in Japanese: buru sera.

The religious may say it’s the secular society; the result of a society with no moral code being broadcast from the pulpit. Some may say it’s actually just the true nature of man (male not kind) to lust after the ripe yet unplucked and that other men simply deny their desires. The fact that the age of consent in Japan is 13 probably doesn’t help either.

In South Africa ‘Sugar Daddies’ buy the favours of younger women in a ‘cash for affection’ transaction which is a small step away from pure prostitution. This occurs in South Africa mostly between very poor girls, some of whom are child heads of households, and richer men who take advantage of the financial needs of the girls. This cross age dating happens in Japan too, and is called enjo kosai. However, the poverty of the girl does not seem to be an element in this kind of dating, only the age.

Men using and abusing and lusting after school girls is no new phenomena. I just wonder why it is so much part of Japanese culture. And why nothing has been done to protect the girls, partly from themselves!