Tag Archive: paedophile

bad or mad

What and who we find sexually attractive is not something we have control over.

You like tall lanky blondes, i like more rounded brunettes, you find long hair revolting on men but love a good afro, i find long hair sexy and wild, you like members of the same sex, i like ones of the opposite sex….you get the picture.

It doesn’t matter cos we can all fill our own fantasies and chase the people we find sexy and attractive

And no one minds


But what if you thing is something a bit off centre? What if you find midgets or pregnant woman or amputees really sexy?

The world looks at you like you are a freak and a sexual weirdo. But still, you can fulfil you fantasies either by finding a person who matches your desires or by digging around on the interwebz for suitable, if slightly odd porn.


But what if we go one step further and your sexual desires are illegal? What then? What if your juices flow for images of dead people, violent crime or, the worst of the worst for society, children?


Is this a malicious choice a person makes, or simply a bit of really unfortunate wiring in their heads?

Does the person have a choice at what he (or she) reacts to biologically?


What the person does have, or should have, is impulse control.

But if the wiring is so jumbled that 5 year olds appear sexy, could the wiring for the impulse control perhaps also be misfiring?


Does no one think for even a second that rather than bad and evil, these men are might be mad and sad.

That maybe compassion and therapy is what is needed

That no man WANTS to be a paedophile

That they need help (while kept away from society) rather than castration and hatred


Just a thought

Hard Candy

Hard Candy Hmmm – potentially an interesting movie this one. It tackles the idea of personally meted out vengeance for illegal activity. This essential concept is couched in the experience of paedophile and young girl, so it’s layered with all sorts of emotions.


I must admit i was bored in parts of this movie and i think it misses its mark often. It’s way too easy to like the man and feel some empathy for him as a human being. And i found it very hard to like the girl. These conflicting emotions, the opposite of what we are expected to feel, i think set the movie too far away from me for it to really work. At the end i still did not much like the girl and cannot condone what she does. I understand her motivation but am just as afraid of her walking the streets as i would be a paedophile.


That being said, the actress who plays the young girl is good. As is the actor who gets to be the Jeff, the photographing whack-job. The two of them are on screen the entire time and they do pull it off. His emotions are completely believable and unfortunately he is easy to side with for most of the film. But not so easy that i felt any guilt for doing so. It’s some feat to have a suspected paedophile be more likeable than a planned (and possibly previous) victim. Not one i’d have thought the movie wanted to achieve.


The end of the movie is quite horrific in some ways. But sadly, i still didn’t like the character i was supposed to relate to. I dunno what the point of the movie was. If we were to all be cheering the girl on she should’ve been more approachable as a characters. It’s so easy to instil sympathy in an audience for abused girls – but this film doesn’t. Are we to feel the humanity of the paedophile? Cos his is touched on but not so much so that there is an ‘aha – he is human too’ moment. So it feels like the movie does nothing when it could have done at least one of so many things.


 Naaah – a kak movie in my opinion. Which is a surprise cos so many people who know me quite well thought i’d really be glad to have seen it. It was a letdown and i want my money back!